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Moving beyond comparison.

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I am Manya Arora, a 17-year-old brown girl who is currently completing her 12th standard and is obsessed with writing and trying to change the world by telling some little realities that we usually face in our day-to-day lives. 

Hey fam, I hope that you all are doing good. So here I am back again with another blog and I hope you all will read it once.


                                         


"Comparing" , a word that holds so much power in itself. There are times when we compare ourselves with other people and there are times when we are compared to other people. It might be by our parents or by the society. People are prone to anxiety these days all because they prefer spending time scrolling social networking sites and forming an ideal self. An ideal self is basically a role model which one aspires to be. And this is the point where discrepancy between an ideal self and real self can lead to comparing oneself with others or finding oneself as not enough. At times we are compared by our parents about not being a child they want us to be or about not coming up to their expectations. This again leads to self - disgust. 


What we don't understand is that we are human beings. We are meant to be imperfect and unique. We are meant to make mistakes so that we could learn and evolve. We are meant to have our own perceptions about the world and about what the world holds for us. Some people might choose that half empty glass, some will choose the half filled glass and others might want to choose both. That's what makes us distinct and we are supposed to be the way we are. 

It's good to introspect and know our follies but comparing those follies with others will always make things adverse. And not every individual can be the topper, not every individual can be the all rounder, not every individual can fulfill all the expectations or norms that the society and the people around them created for them to fit in. We are not supposed to fit in. We are supposed to make our way out if things restrict our acumen or if make us bound to change. Growing is a part of development but restricting our desires and following things irrespective of the fact that we really don't want them would surely bring self - hatred in our way. 

We are the way we are because that's the way we want our world to be and that's the way we want to discern things around us. Comparing ourselves or letting the comparisons made by others affect us would do no good. You are you and that's the most beautiful thing about being "you." 

I hope that you had a good time reading it out. Have a good day ahead<3

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